How to Save a Relationship From Breaking Up!

When a relationship is on the verge of going downhill there are some warning signals. All of us identify these signals but use the ostrich approach. We bury our heads in the sand and pretend that things will tide over by themselves. But that never happens. If you want to save your relationship from breaking up then here are the things that you need to start doing.

Look at the symptoms
Begin to identify the symptoms that make you feel like your relationship is heading southward. It could be your spouse or partner avoiding you or being mean. It could be too many unnecessary fights or it could be cheating. Be open and honest and look at all the symptoms that present themselves.

Identify the causes
Now the symptoms are not what is wrong with your relationship. It's the underlying cause that encourages these symptoms that is the problem. Identify these causes if you want to save the relationship. These obviously are not going to be pretty so steel yourself and be ready to face the truth.
Start talking
Most relationships fail because communication stops. Start talking to your partner/spouse and openly discuss the causes and symptoms that you have been analyzing. Sometimes this is enough to get a relationship back on track.
Don't let opposition deter you
If your partner has still not come to accept that the relationship is dwindling, you will be faced with some opposition. You have to show your maturity and perseverance at a time like this and convince the other person that your relationship needs some hard work.

Don't take advice
Most couples go and talk to their friends when they begin to suspect something is amiss in the relationship. Friends cannot offer unbiased advice and often agree with things that are not. Also they are afraid of unbalancing the personal equation they share with you and will not be harsh or completely truthful when needed.

Confide in a counselor
The best thing to do is to head to a counselor who will be able to give you an objective opinion on everything and will help you chalk out a way of salvaging the relationship. Since he/she will not know you at a personal level helping you will become a lot easier.

Have patience
Simply going to a counselor does not make things ok. You will have to work hard and walk together on the path shown by him/her. Things take time to sort out so have patience and continue to work hard on your relationship and save it from breaking up.